The Happy Life or the Meaningful Life?

I recently read some fascinating research out of Stanford University that examines the happy life and the meaningful life.  I think it provides some insight for both leaders and graduate students, both of whom engage in activities that may require sacrifice and difficulty.  These actions may not make us happy in the immediate sense, but they add depth and meaning to our lives and those of others.

The full article can be found here, and I recommend it.  It’s not a lengthy piece.  Here are the points I’ve been chewing on since reading it:

1.  The happy life and the meaningful life are often not the same.  Meaningful experiences almost always mean that you will encounter stresses, obstacles, and challenges; otherwise, the opportunity for impact would not exist.  Examples would be parenting, doing social work, or being in graduate school.  Happiness is about getting what you want and need without challenges and struggles, which brings zing to our lives but not necessarily meaning.
2. Happiness is often about superficial things and taking, while meaning is about deeper relationships and giving.  Having coffee with a friend where you are silly and laugh a lot makes you happy but doesn’t ultimately provide much meaning.  Having coffee with a friend who you counsel and advise through a terrible personal situation may be stressful, but it has tremendous impact and meaning. 
3. The in-the-moment, “hakuna matata” mindset makes you happy but linking together past, present, and future increases meaningfulness. (You’re welcome for the hakuna matata earworm, by the way.)  The Stanford research showed that thinking about the past, present, and future makes you less happy but it’s the only way to create a more meaningful life.  

For most of us, our goal is to balance both superficial happiness and deeper meaning.  But I think this research could help with some of those more challenging...er, meaningful times.  The next time you have to talk to a colleague about something stressful or you have to sacrifice doing something fun to do your academic work, think about this idea.  Understand that you are increasing the meaning in your life and the lives of others through your actions today.

This research was somewhat surprising to me, as I’d never thought of happiness and meaning as so dichotomous.  What is your reaction?

I tend to believe that a meaningful life is the path to a happy life, but this research would seem to cast doubt on this idea.  What do you think?

How do you help colleagues, friends, and family to find create meaningful lives or find meaning in difficulty?